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NY Times Magazine Celebrates Gay Teens; But Does It Exploit Them, Too?

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27out.2-650But the choice of some quotes and anecdotes — admittedly juicy — strikes me as questionable. Take for instance, the story’s forays into bisexuality: “Bisexual girls have it the easiest,” says one 13-year-old. “Most of the straight guys at school think that’s hot, so that can make the girl even more popular.” Hm. Later, an eighth-grader quips, “Yeah, he’ll make out with anyone. Totally bisexual.” And though we’re supposed to chuckle at his command of sexual terms and ideas, I feel manipulated into doing so. It’s like hearing children curse.

At one point, the writer tours a Northern California school with three students who proceed to speculate on the sexuality of their classmates as they pass them on the school grounds, using code words so they’re not overheard. The entire scene is highly representative of the adolescent rumor mill and scandalous gossip, but does it really have a place in the Times, ripe for adults to objectify?

Then, take this passage, shameless in its provocation:

Alison turned to me and recalled a recent “lesbian moment” of hers. “I totally had the hots for this girl in ‘Jesus Christ Superstar,’ ” she said with a giggle. “I was, like, ‘Whoa, I’m really attracted to you right now!’”

“Jesus was hot in that, too,” Justin offered.

27out.3-500I’d hate to think that my squeamish reaction makes me a prude. I believe children should embrace and openly discuss their sexual selves, but amongst their peers and with mediators, not in the media. Having not so long ago been that age — and remembering it with a mix of fondness and fright — I say that kids are largely too fragile, too fickle and too precious to be utilized in this way. And lest it seem to only be about sex, I feel a similar queasiness when thinking of the children in a recent New York magazine exposé of Little League: a fascinating subject, certainly, but should kids be sorting out their feelings to a reporter in the pages of a national publication?

To be sure, I see the article as overwhelmingly positive and of great importance. The piece is a welcomed lifeline to any child or parent overwhelmed by sexual identity who happens upon a copy, online or in print, and is thus delivered hope about the possibility of acceptance. But like so much engaging writing, it conjures a lot of conflict. Would I rather the article not exist at all, or worse, be half as entertaining? Probably not. I just fear that not every reader will be equipped with enough empathy to use this valuable tool toward change in a positive way. I hope I’m wrong.

Photos by Brent Humphreys for the New York Times

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  • http://www.twitter.com/kgotkin Kevin Gotkin

    Great piece, Mr. Coscarelli. I do have to say that I think part of the reason we all feel children are “too fragile, too fickle and too precious to be utilized in this way” is because we, as Americans, cannot divorce the idea of sexuality from the idea of sex, especially when dealing with homosexuality. Of course, this is nothing new and nothing too old to be changed at the snap of the fingers. But I don’t think the Times’ piece wouldn’t have been so upsetting to a lot of people if even those being interviewed didn’t take their cardinal direction from thinking of gay or lesbian sex as totally taboo.

  • Pam1151

    This is a great story. I wish more of this was going on in the country. Kids need all the support they can get.

  • TheVoiceofQ

    WORDS HURT.

    I am a middle school teacher in NYC and currently writing my paper for my grad class due monday on the” issue of adolescent identity-what has already been constructed for them by themselves and by others , and what they wish to construct for themselves and how as learner’s can literacy methods by teachers allow for positive development of self concept for them” I have chosen to work with a 12 year gay African American boy who like myself ( his 30 something male teacher) loves what Lady Gaga is doing for culture and his sense of self worth.

    Unfortunately despite it being yes 2009 and even NYC- “no homo” mentality (of gay suspect learned patterns of regressive dis-valued behavior within the group norms) of adults and peer alike where I teach (and even how American society is constructed evident in the disqualification of gay marriage) only leads to negative self concept like a horribly undeserving domino effect trickling a child into isolation, insecurity, and even suicide. Its stops innocence and healthy sexuality. Its like chopping off the limbs of a tree before it blooms . Its not a good look and clearly not ethical.

    I just hope that somehow in the future if the funding is available that a state/national program be implemented for both STAFF and student population that can in some find the best resolution to providing mandated therauputic boundary awareness information for gender based life choices bullying. It only requires a monochrome of emotional intelligence for adults to be more aware.

    Biased homophobic opinions and values are only breeding an on going horrible social disease that interrupts life.

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